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Moving Forward
15 Feb 2012

There is little we cannot overcome through the deep quietening and strengthening we gain through Meditation, and I am bringing this up now 9 months after my daughter Phoebe’s  car accident because, not only am I speaking to you as a healer and intuitive counsellor but also from my own  personal experience. 

For some strange reason we human beings seem to enjoy holding on to feelings caused by negative events in our lives.  There are, of course occasions when this can be quite helpful in stopping us repeating mistakes but it can also be harmful if say, we are holding on to the pain this negative event has caused us.  We tend to cling to the emotions we felt, be it grief, horror, fear or perhaps a combination of them all.  It is as though by letting go of those emotions, we fear we may forget and/or minimise the importance of that event – however, if we hold on to these feelings and emotions for too long, they begin to colour everything in our lives and in time we even begin to define ourselves as ‘the person to whom this dreadful event happened’.   At this point we have stopped, and by that I mean we block ourselves from progressing with our lives. 

No-one knowingly does this to themselves of course, but it can and does happen to people who are considered, and consider themselves to be balanced in every way. 

It takes courage to acknowledge that this has happened and it takes more courage and faith in the future to let it go.  It is not impossible, it can be done and Meditation, with its quietening and strengthening process, helps us face the truth, let go, move forward into our future and continue to follow our path through life.

I am thankful everyday that I have Meditation as a 'tool for life'.

 

 

 

How to Stay Youthful at 86!
04 Jan 2012

Yesterday evening my father and mother, 91 and 86 respectively, went out to dinner at a well-known local hotel, to celebrate the 90th birthday of a great friend.  My mother had parked her car, as she is entitled, in a disabled parking bay and she and my father were making their way towards the hotel entrance, along an unlit path.  It was very difficult to see the path in the dark and she took a small step to her right and fell into a basement area which was down about 8 steps -  and this is what happened next:

You might quite reasonably think that she needed help, but no; up she got, calling to my father that she was fine as she didn't want him to worry.   She then dusted herself off, took him into the hotel and told him to go on ahead to find their friends and then marched off the find the hotel manager to give him a piece of his mind for not having any lights turned on.  Then she went into dinner, telling no-one else what had happened, and celebrated their friend's birthday as she had intended.

She spent a restless night in some pain.  Her hip was badly bruised and her hand and wrist were hurting, swollen and misshapen, but she managed to look after my father who now has difficulty getting around.  It was only in the morning that she phoned me to ask if I could take her to the doctor and this was after she had got up and dressed.  "Daddy's making a fuss"  she said to me as she explained what had happened - it was at my father's insistence she rang and made an appointment with her doctor, complaining "I feel like a fraud, there's nothing wrong".  

After all, what could possibly be wrong with an 86 year old (going on 26) who has fallen into a basement and now has a bruised hip and misshapen hand?

I arrived at their house to find her smiling and apologising and still insisting that none of this fuss was necessary.  The doctor immediately sent her for an Xray (but she refused point blank go before we had gone home and given my father his lunch!!). The Xray showed 2 fractures to her wrist and hand!  She was very very fortunate that this was the only injury.  "You see" she said, "I was wearing my duvet coat (a padded winter coat).  I didn't realise I was falling so I fell like a baby and didn't tense".  

She is now furious with the hotel and is going back to give the manager a piece of her mind and ensure there are, in future, lights on so that no-one else has a similar accident. She is, of course, absolutely right to do so, but I don't envy him - you don't want to go head to head with this particular 86 year old, who always fights the good fight to the very end.  

So................to stay youthful and live long, forget age altogether - defy it and live life as if you were still young, smiling, optimistic, energetic, purposeful and with energy and zest for life.

My mother is 86, looks no more than 66, is a force to be reckoned with and an example to us all.

 

 

The Difference
04 Dec 2011

I love this buddhist poem and I think it applies to all of us.  Whenever I read it, I personally think of the word 'meditate' instead of 'pray' and I replace the word 'God' with 'The Light'.

THE DIFFERENCE 

I got up early one morning

and rushed right into the day.

I had so much to accomplish

that I didn’t have time to pray.

Problems just tumbled about me,

and heavier came each task.

“Why doesn’t God help me?”

I wondered.

He answered, “You didn’t ask.”

I wanted to see joy and beauty,

but the day toiled gray and bleak;

I wondered why God didn’t show me.

He said, “But you didn’t seek”.

I tried to come into God’s presence;

I used all my keys at the lock.

God gently and lovingly chided,

“My child, you didn’t knock.”

I woke early this morning,

and paused before entering the day;

I had so much to accomplish

that I had to take time to pray.

 

 

Sometimes When the Worst Things Happen
28 Nov 2011

Sometimes when the worst things happen to us, or anyway what we perceive to be the worst things, we ask the question “why, why me, why now?”.   Often the reason(s) seem unfathomable or entirely invisible but in these much more enlightened times, we know that there is going to be more than one good answer and the quiet practice of Meditation helps us do just that.

The things which happen to us in life are usually there to help us learn the lessons we need to learn, helping us to evolve and progress and sometimes these things have to be quite harsh in order for us to take the lessons on board sufficiently to make the necessary changes within ourselves and to really progress. 

As with everything which happens in life, there is a ripple effect.  What happens to us will have an effect on those closest to us and so on.  When something apparently catastrophic hits us, we initially reel with the shock but a little further down the track and if we are enlightened enough, we begin to see “why, why me, why now?” 

However ‘bad’ something or some happening may seem, it is always important to look at what we have learned from it and how others may have had to adjust their perspective as a result.  As just one example: perhaps we break patterns of behaviour in ourselves and in others and these can be karrmic patterns of behaviour which may have been continuing from generation to generation in an unhelpful way.  We can then see that the dreadful thing which has befallen us has happened for an extremely positive reason.   By strengthening ourselves to deal with it, we have also allowed others to strengthen and evolve in a way they otherwise perhaps would not. 

Meditation – a tool for life

 

 

 

Phoebe's Nose
16 Nov 2011

One would think the least important thing  of all my daughter Phoebe’s horrific injuries sustained in a car crash in May this year, would be her nose.  However, unlike her mother, she was blessed with a perfect nose but due to the accident, the bridge had to be retrieved from in her brain, (fortunately it had caused no brain damage) and part of the bridge had disintegrated along with the septum.

Due to all the drugs administered while she was in Intensive Care, she seemed blissfully unaware of very much of what was going on, but once she was in a normal hospital room, the nose became the focus of Phoebe’s attention and planning.  As she had sustained so many other injuries and was having operations on her legs, her pelvis and the reconstruction of cheek bones and eye sockets, we had time to search for the best photos of her nose at different angles for the surgeon to work from.  Inevitably there would have to be a second operation to reconstruct it and Phoebe was determined it would be “exactly the same” or woe betide the surgeon!

October arrived and Phoebe underwent further surgery - a bone graft to her right femur as it had been so badly shattered that bone had been unable to bond.  This over and two weeks later she had her nose (the bridge and the septum) reconstructed.  Even right after the stitches were out and splints removed we could tell it was good. 

Now several weeks later and I’m pleased to report it is perfect.  I imagine the surgeon is breathing a sigh of relief too!

 

 

The Message
08 Oct 2011

For those of you who have not watched this............

Behind this speech is my philosophy and the message I try to convey,  but inspiringly and immaculately well relayed by the recently deceased Steve Jobs"......................

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UF8uR6Z6KLc


An Obstacle
06 Oct 2011

An Obstacle

 

I was climbing up a mountain path

With many things to do,

Important business of my own

And other people’s too,

When I ran against a Prejudice

That quite cut off the view.

 

My work was such as could not wait,

My path quite clearly showed,

My strength and time were limited,

I carried quite a load;

And there that hulking Prejudice

Sat all across the road.

 

I spoke to him politely,

For he was huge and high,

And begged that he would move a bit

And let me travel by.

He smiled, but as for moving!.....

He did not even try.

 

And then I reasoned quietly

With that colossal mule:

My time was short – no other path –

The mountain winds were cool.

I argued like a Solomon;

He sat there like a fool.

 

Then I flew into a passion,

I danced and howled and swore.

I pelted and belaboured him

Till I was stiff and sore;

He got as mad as I did ---

But he sat there as before.

 

And then I begged him on my knees;

I might be kneeling still

If so I hoped to move that man

Of obdurate ill-will ---

As well invite the monument

To vacate Bunker Hill.

 

So I sat before him helpless,

In an ecstasy of woe ---

The mountain mists were rising fast,

The Sun was sinking slow ---

When a sudden inspiration came,

As sudden winds do blow.

 

I took my hat I took my stick,

My load I settled fair,

I approached that awful incubus

With an absent-minded air ---

And I walked directly through him,

As if he wasn’t there.

 

Charlotte Perkins Stetson

 

 

 

 

 

What Peace of Mind Has Done for Me
10 Sep 2011

I came to Peace of Mind in a bit of a state.  I was very tearful, not at ease with myself, and my mind seemed overloaded and chattering all the time.  This was partly from being menopausal but also I was very stressed at work and full of worries about my future.  The weight of the world seemed to be on my shoulders.  I was forever asking myself:  “what’s it all about?” and I knew there was something lacking but how would I ever know what it was or where to find it?

Very soon after I first walked through the door and met Sonia and her group of wonderful students, my anxieties began to recede, the causes for being stressed by my job seemed less important and a most surprising thing happened: the awakening of my spirituality. Ah, what a joy and I am thrilled to have been shown this path, particularly through Development and I know that I shall, in time, find my life purpose.  This gives me enormous hope for the future.

Through the practice of meditation I now give myself time to quieten and listen and the knock on effect is that I have learned that there is a bigger picture and that everything is for a reason.  I now feel so much more grounded, confident, hopeful and better equipped to handle life’s setbacks.  I just need to hear my own quiet guidance.  This subtle enlightenment influences not only me but everyone in my life.  I would certainly say that I at least try to be more compassionate, tolerant and less judgemental towards others and particularly myself.

Peace of Mind gives me a sense of feeling protected, belonging, guided, connected with Spirit, never feeling alone, access to new wisdom and purposefulness.

I feel part of a secret club!  How lucky we are and it is great to spend time with likeminded people.

Blog provided by Sarah Hall, student of Peace of Mind UK

 

Meditation Straightened Me Out Emotionally
01 Aug 2011

Meditation straightened me out emotionally and has enabled me to break some chains from the past and make sense of so much.  I previously had no idea of the power of a silent seated meditation.  I can attest that the regular practice has changed my life and has indeed become a tool for life.

Everyone who meditates regularly finds the quality of their life improves.  Sonia often says “our lives run smoother with meditation.  Shes right of course.  Years of regular meditation has had a profound effect on me, from the clarity and confidence it promotes, to the well-being and balance I get as a by-product to the ‘making sense of past events, people and situations.  (And Im talking about some very big past events).

Quite simply, not only does my life now run 100% smoother but I am happier, more creative, focused about my present, and my future, forward thinking, more joyful, less stressed and the most successful professionally I have ever been.  I feel I have the key priorities right in my life for the first time.  Life is good!  To have had the immense clarity and insights through mymeditations coupled with Sonias intuitive counseling and beautiful wisdom over many years HAS enabled me to move on from several very painful and debilitating situations.

For my part, I have honored my personal commitment to meditate for 30 minutes a day on a regular basis.  If your life isn’t running how you would like it, do look at meditation.

Anonymous blog provided by a student of Peace of Mind UK.

Even in the Eye of a Storm......
13 Jul 2011

I’ve been a regular meditator for about 30 years: this practice and daily ritual has stood me in good stead, through thick and thin and has been a saviour of my inner peace, health, balance and wellbeing for nearly half my life. 

This Summer I had cause to reflect on my years of meditation in a deeply personal and unexpected way. 

I teach my clients that meditation is a tool for life and I was reminded of this following the horrific car crash in which Phoebe, my youngest daughter, had a near death experience resulting from a tyre blow out on an LA highway which catapulted her onto the opposite side of the highway and head on into fast moving traffic, resulting in her car being reduced to a pulp with her inside.   

That flight is one I will never forget.  The minutes felt like hours and the hours felt like days.   I have never meditated so hard and in the eye of this personal storm, I was rewarded for my faith in meditation by finding my daughter alive, albeit incredibly battered, but her brain and spine were uninjured, whilst the rest of her body was shattered. 

Taking my own advice, when in need of support and rebalancing meditation is a massive tool for calming, strengthening and inducing greater insights.  I meditated multiple times on this longest of journeys to LA.  I know that when I arrived I was in  better personal shape because of it.  I needed to be strong for my daughter and as the days unfolded, the one thing I could rely on was my personal commitment to my meditations. 

So, even in the eye of a storm that has the potential to be a tornado in our lives, hold on to the fact that emergency meditations are exactly what you need to strengthen and to handle well whatever situation you may meet.

Make meditation your personal tool for life ~ Sonia